The Enneagram for Couples
Our lives are full of other people - life partners, family, friends & work colleagues - and the quality of our lives depends upon the quality of these relationships.
Relationships have the potential to bring us great fulfilment and joy and yet they also bring us confusion, frustration, difficulties and pain. Work relationships can be difficult, relationships with family members can be fraught with problems and even long-term, intimate relationships can suddenly blow up in our faces so that we experience conflict, turmoil and hurtful emotions where a moment before there was only happiness and harmony. And sometimes there is a pattern of relationships that work well for a while but then things just fall apart and we don’t understand why.
Only the Enneagram unravels the deeper aspects of couple dynamics
Why do we have these problems? How can we have got to this point in our lives and still not got the hang of it all? For one very basic reason - we have been trying to deal with our relationships without being fully equipped with some very essential knowledge about ourselves and other people.
The problems within relationships are a result of the differences between people
After all, if the other person was more like you, you wouldn’t have this problem, right? Well that isn’t going to happen because if you are having problems then the other party is certainly not the same type as you (because people of the same personality type ‘speak’ the same language!)
What if you could finally find out why that other person acts and reacts in the way that they do and why you find that behaviour so difficult to deal with? What if you could get real understanding about the differences between people and what to do about them, so that your relationships were easier and simpler?
The solution to all relationship problems lies in understanding the differences between you and the other party. Each of the Nine Types has different core needs, different emotional vulnerabilities and different ways of acting and reacting when their buttons are pressed.
Loving relationships are about growth and discovering more about yourself through the special bond you have with another - and that’s why attending The Enneagram Programme together is so much fun, and why we have had so many couples attend the course together in the past.
And if your partner is not interested in coming on the course, you will gain enormous benefit by attending on your own. You will understand yourself and him/her properly for the first time and be able to unravel both the big and the little problems that crop up between you.
Personal Consultations for Couples
The improvement in relationships that course participants experience has proved so profound that Veronica also offers personal consultations for those wishing to explore deeper relationship issues and find solutions to problems. These sessions are for individuals or couples.
This work provides you with:
- Understanding of yourself within the relationship
- Insight into each other's values, unspoken needs and expectations
- Fresh perspectives about conflict - why it happens and how it could be avoided
- Awareness of potential trouble spots between you
- Clarity about frustrations, fears & defensive strategies
Requirement: Completion of 3-day Awakening Foundation Course by one or both parties.
Please contact Veronica for more information or to book your session: veronica@enneagrampathways.com.
